Scene 1: On campus, I run into a male colleague from another department that I haven't seen in months. Small talk ensues.
Jane: Oh, congrats on getting tenure!
Colleague: Thanks! You know, the process was really great overall. Very transparent, you know. My department let me know what was going on every step of the way, ... [prolonged gushing ensues about what an uplifting experience the tenure process was for this person and the joys of working in this particular department]
Colleague stops in mid-sentence after noting the look---of horror? disbelief? despair?---on Jane's face. (Jane has many good qualities; a poker face is not one of them.)
Colleague: [stammering] Um, of course, every department is different and such...and I'm incredibly lucky, I guess... [mumble mumble]
Scene 2: On campus again, at lunch with colleagues from various departments.
Male Colleague #1: [Launches into story about a female colleague's recent bad experience with a disgruntled student who didn't like the grade he received in her class.] ... And of course, the student immediately blamed the bad grade on Female Colleague's teaching.
Jane: Oh, how terrible! Sounds a lot like my experience with Student From Hell a while ago.
MC #1: Yeah. You know, in all my years of teaching, I've never had a student call my teaching into question over a bad grade. Or anything else, for that matter.
Jane: It's not fun when it happens.
MC #1: Not to mention not fair! You know, it really opened my eyes.
Male Colleague #2: Oh, that's happened to me before, too.
Everyone turns to face MC #2.
Jane: It has?
MC #2: Sure! I've had plenty of students ask me to regrade things.
Jane stares at MC #2 incredulously. She wonders if it's possible to anonymously send him this.
MC #1: Er...we're really talking about something completely different here, you know.
MC #2: [Blissfully unaware, launches into a story about regrading, completely missing the point.]
Sometimes I wonder what color the sky is on the planet on which my male colleagues live. And if their campus planet has better food in the vending machines.