tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9848115.post5558851668343787525..comments2023-10-30T08:30:47.431-05:00Comments on See Jane Compute: Introspection timeJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17082496114155799356noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9848115.post-82906171644760786892007-04-16T06:41:00.000-05:002007-04-16T06:41:00.000-05:00Ask away, Jane! Personally, I think even if you h...Ask away, Jane! Personally, I think even if you have no intention of leaving, it wouldn't hurt to have another option for the sake of bargaining power. :)Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06927630155994067676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9848115.post-47340364700054545192007-04-15T22:46:00.000-05:002007-04-15T22:46:00.000-05:00Thanks, Michael! I'm definitely trying not to foc...Thanks, Michael! I'm definitely trying not to focus on the department while gone (which is probably why I've been so relaxed this whole sabbatical :) ), concentrating on research and home. And the whole "no environment is perfect" is one of the things I've been thinking about when thinking about whether to stay or go---you hit the nail on the head there! Well, anyway, I'll definitely be addressing that in my "stay or go?" post. Which, I guess, I've now committed myself to write.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17082496114155799356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9848115.post-83275482843964679902007-04-15T12:38:00.000-05:002007-04-15T12:38:00.000-05:00Jane, for now, given all the changes in your life,...Jane, for now, given all the changes in your life, try to ignore the department. Focus on your baby, husband, your health, and research. Write and publish and simply try to be 'nice' in your department...until you get tenure and then, well, have your say. Remember, there is no perfect environment no matter where you go. I have a rule of thumb: Given any room where at least twelve people are gathered, there is always one Judas or, at least, one idiot. Hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9848115.post-59805331231748432762007-04-15T10:20:00.000-05:002007-04-15T10:20:00.000-05:00Awwww, thanks, Rebecca, for your kind words! Your...Awwww, thanks, Rebecca, for your kind words! Your advice on birth and parenting is the best I've received yet. I have to say that I've learned a lot, too, by reading blogs like yours that talk about both work and parenting young kids....it's nice to see how you and others manage to balance everything and retain your sanity! :)<BR/><BR/>As far as the job thing, I wish my introspection had brought more clarity as to whether I should put more energy into staying or going. I'm truly, truly torn. But I think that warrants its own separate post. (I may email you about the last part, since I am weighing my options at this point....thanks!)Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17082496114155799356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9848115.post-80959075032946602062007-04-13T10:05:00.000-05:002007-04-13T10:05:00.000-05:00Jane, I don't think you would be a conscientious p...Jane, I don't think you would be a conscientious person if you weren't worried about going through childbirth and being a good mother! My experience is that those are two things that you'll never be prepared for. Childbirth is scary and painful, but like billions of other women before you, you'll make it through it. And parenting, that's just something you're going to have to learn as you go. My only advice is to be flexible, forgive yourself when you make mistakes, and remember that children are very resilient.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad that you've been able to reflect on your department, too. It seems like that has been a somewhat unhealthy place for you and I hope that you'll be able to make it better for you, whether through making internal changes or making external changes. If you ever decide to make a really BIG change, I'd love it if you'd apply for a joint faculty position down here, because I think you'd be a fun person to work with and actually get to know in person! ;)Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06927630155994067676noreply@blogger.com